“How to forgive” is often one of the most difficult things for people, even for those who actually want to forgive. It can be a common source of pain and suffering for us.
Forgiveness is sometimes more about understanding, what’s the underlying beliefs that are holding us back from letting something go. Once we have clarity around that, we can defuse, zoom out, or “make room” for them. We may even be able to change or fine tune these beliefs over time.
So what are the common culprits?
1. If someone does something wrong, they must be punished or have consequences.
2. Life should be fair. We must have justice.
3. Letting go is the same as giving up.
4. It’s unfair. Why do I have to let that go.
In the words of old wisdom.....
“Holding on to anger or resentment, is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”.
So consider letting it go. It will lighten our load to focus on the things that we can change or matter to us at this point in time. We are doing it for our own mental health and well-being.