Have you ever had the experience where you rolled your eyes at someone, including your partner and spouse, and think that they are “nuts”, odd, or completely weird?
Some of you may do this to me right now! It’s normal and expected.
When this happens, there are 4 main possibilities.
1 The other person is odd or crazy.
2 They have different values and beliefs to you due to differing personalities and upbringing.
3 They have a different way of cognitive processing and thinking to you, and hence perceive the world differently to you, and make decisions differently to you.
4 A combination of the above.
A big component of counseling including couple counseling, is to help folks gain the emotional literacy to understand self, accept self, understand others, accept others, and see where it “all fits in”. Life is a team sport, and we can’t win if our team is not diverse enough and is incomplete. We can’t win a soccer game with 11 goalies, or 11 strikers.
We are more than the sum of our parts but only if we can understand, acknowledge, appreciate each other for who we are, and see how it all complements with each other.
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