In counseling work, when patients realize that they can zoom in(fusion) and zoom out(defusion) from a thought/feeling/narrative, they can change that thought/feeling/narrative without changing the actual thought/feeling/narrative.
So “zoom out” or defuse from self critical, it becomes self reflective
Avoidance becomes acceptance
Fixed becomes flexible
Aggressiveness becomes assertiveness
Compromise becomes consensus
“No choice” becomes “There is a choice”
Stuck becomes unstuck
Closed/judging becomes opened/curious
Conflict becomes understanding
And so …..
The point is, learning to “zoom in” and “zoom out” is a critical skill in emotional literacy and processing.