Have you ever been stuck with an exam question and cannot let it go?
Then you learnt to let it go and move onto the next question, and then the next question. At the later stage, you may revisit the difficult question again and try it again.
Life is similar ….
If we represent our limited time on Earth like our limited time in the exam, and the questions are our challenging thoughts, feelings, narratives, memories and problems, we ideally learn to “unhook” from the stuff we cannot control, and “hook” onto the stuff that we can control.
Unhook, then hook, unhook, then hook and so on.
Unhook from the stuff that do not matter, and/or stuff that we cannot control for now.
And hook onto the stuff that does matter, and/or stuff that we can control.
I wonder if you know what I mean.