People who are close to me will sometimes tell me that at times, I don’t follow “social norms”
I don’t usually follow or conform to “social norms”. It’s often in my nature to encourage people to be who they are, and live life true to who they are. Live life authentically so to speak. I try to hold space my my values and the values of others. There is a proviso for this “way of thinking” however.
It has to be workable.
If following our values is not workable, it will create unhealthy stress for us and for the people around us. We simply can’t just do whatever we feel like or whatever we “value”.
It’s definitely not easy to live a life true to one’s values, and then try to live a life that is congruent with the values of the people within our circle as well.
The principles are…
Follow our inner values for inner harmony.
Follow the values of those around us for outer harmony.
The trick is to achieve both inner and outer harmony.
Counseling or coaching, especially with the Acceptance Commitment Therapy framework, tries to help folks balance their inner harmony with the outer harmony.
That’s definitely not easy, but it’s doable.
I hope you know what I mean.