When observing people’s behaviours, we can see the following patterns....
1. Some are great at processing and working with other people’s feelings. They are very tuned into the feelings of others. Their decision making is heavily influenced by the feelings of others. Social harmony is important to them.
2. Some are great at processing and working with external rules and principles to make things workable. Workability is very important to them. They are more practical by nature.
3. Some are great at processing and working with their own internal rules and principles, and to do things that make logical sense to them, rather than relying on their own feelings. They are more rational in nature.
4. Some are great with processing and working with their own feelings and values, and to stay authentic, true to who they are, and to maintain inner harmony.
Much of counseling is to equip people with the emotional literacy and skills to “fill in any of the missing gaps” above.