In counseling, I often observe kids with the following patterns that present to me with mood issues or behavioral concerns.
1 Some kids are great at being aware of other people’s feelings but not their own.
2 Some are very good at knowing how they feel, but not great with the feelings of others.
3 Some are great with both, but I don’t often see this group to be honest.
4 Those who have great difficulties with both sensing and processing their own feelings, and the feelings of others.
Those in number 4 are at risk of running into trouble at schools, especially in the social sense.
If we represent feelings like colors, then these kids are a bit “color blind” to feelings, including theirs and others.
They need support in emotional literacy to accept them for who they are, embrace their strengths, and manage their weaknesses including scaffolding.
Interestingly, when they are “color blind” to feelings, it presents strengths in other areas like photographic memories for example. It’s like when someone is blind, the other senses heighten to compensate. Daredevil came to mind for Marvel fans.