When using feelings to drive action rather than simply to perceive, feelings are like your set of clothes in your wardrobe. You have a diverse set of clothes for different weather, seasons and events.
Proficient users of feelings know what clothes they have, where to find it, and when to use it correctly for different situations.
Non proficient users of feelings use it reactively or try not to use it at all.
Counseling is like being someone’s stylist. We help people to recognize the items of clothing in their wardrobe (feelings), where to find them, and recognize which one to use in any particular context or event.
We learn to use feelings to drive value based actions more intentionally rather than reactively.