Life is a balance between certainty and uncertainty

Life is a balancing act between certainty and uncertainty.

Too much certainty and we may feel stagnant and bored and then seek uncertainty.

Too much uncertainty and we may feel tense/anxious and then seek certainty.

It’s a “feeling” that one has to manage. It’s often harder to do this well on one’s own due to our biases and blindspots.

If one has a partner, often that helps because they are often the opposite to help us regulate.

If you seek too much uncertainty/newness/progress, then your partner are often the one that seek certainty/stability/routine to keep the system in balance. Of course this can also a common source of conflict, and emotional literacy/self awareness are important here to move the partnership forward in healthier ways.