Tuesday, April 9, 2024

Are you a bit lost in choosing the right area of Medicine to pursue?

As Medicine is so diverse, are you stuck with choice paralysis?

Well start with this perhaps.

Make a list of all the things you love or hate in your working career, and ask the question “why” but try to answer that with only one word.  This will give you insight into what your values are and what will inspire you and make you happy.  

So why make a list of all the things we love and hate?  This is because values are usually “emotive”.

Some examples of values are family, fun, adventure, growth, harmony, equality, connection, stability, security, etc. 

Once you are clear on your values, explore what areas in Medicine that will resonate with those values/most of those values and try to make that workable.

So the framework to consider is, follow your values and make that workable in the real world.

I hope you can find your clarity soon in order to create a fulfilling career. 

Sunday, March 24, 2024

Psychological flexibility is required to get us out of being emotionally “stuck”

Psychological flexibility is an important skill for folks who struggle with being emotionally “stuck”.

It’s not an easy one because in order to be “psychologically or cognitively flexible”, one has to be able to shift not only thinking and behaviours, but also one’s deep seated beliefs/feelings about one’s context.

That’s the hard bit.

Monday, March 18, 2024

Shifting from fear of failure to the growth mindset

As a Family Doctor, I often see how fear of failure can impact people’s lives in very unhealthy ways.

Often underlying this fear of failure is a deep belief that their self worth is solely linked to external measures like external achievements, looks or popularity. It’s easy to see how this has come to be through our schooling, upbringing, media, and Hollywood.

So how else can we process this feeling as it arises and as an alternative to the usual Fight, Flight, and Freeze responses?

One can use the ACE strategy from Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) to Acknowledge that conditioning/belief, and defusion from that belief at the same time. Connect with body sense/s to ground oneself in the present moment, and lastly, Engage with value based actions along with authenticity, workability, personal growth, meaning and purpose despite the challenges or possible failures.

This is to cultivate a “growth mindset” with those triggers rather than simply associating it with the Fight, Flight, or Freeze.

I wonder if you can relate….

Tuesday, February 13, 2024

The “Genie question” in counseling and coaching work

In counseling/coaching, when we ask people what they truly want in their life and the answer is, “I don’t know”, that “I don’t know” may come from a space of “being too realistic” or “a fear of being judged as a silly answer”.

One way around this is to ask the “genie question” because with the genie question, it’s from a space of possibility rather than probability. 

“If I am a Genie and I grant you one single wish, what will you ask for?”

It’s better for brainstorming and exploration to get unstuck.

I wonder if you know what I mean….