Growing up, we learn that the way we speak to others is very important.
But what about the way to speak to ourselves?
If we can master that, then we can change a lot of things, including how we feel and take action.
Inside our head is often the thinking mind having a conversation with our feeling mind. If one is not careful, the conversation can be more like an argument rather than a productive discussion.
The thinking mind likes to challenge with facts.
The feeling mind prefers acknowledgment and validation first, hold space or create space for the feelings, and then the challenge with alternative facts.
Knowing how to soothe our feeling mind is part of emotional regulation.
Have you had these struggles?