If one holds a crying child with feelings of worry, fear, helplessness, anger, and frustration, it’s an awful experience.
If one can hold a crying child with feelings of love, care, and compassion, it may lead us to a very different place.
So what’s my point?
The “feelings” with which we use to solve our problems matter. It matters deeply. It can make all the difference between a terrible or a wonderful outcome.
So next time we or our patients have an uncomfortable thought or feeling, consider holding it like a crying child, but with love, kindness, care, and compassion, and let that guide us, rather than the anger or helplessness.